After talking about books, I now offer you a review of a book. The Love & Respect Experience: A Husband-Friendly Devotional that Wives Truly Love by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. This is a devotional, divided into 52 small chapters, with each chapter ending with a Prayer topic and an Action to do with your spouse. Each chapter deals with a topic common to marriage. I wanted to sit down and read the whole thing through, but since it is a devotional, that didn't seem right to me. What I did then was to read the introduction and then bounced around the different chapters.
Dr. Eggerichs is know for talking about how men need Respect and how women need Love. Men and women are made different, looking at the world through different eyes, but if we can learn how to meet each other's needs, our marriages will work better.
A few things popped out at me in my reading:
- Goodwill. Our marriages need to be based on goodwill. We need to have the intention, the purpose in our marriage to do good to our spouse. If a disagreement happens, don't immediately think that they intended that purposefully or maliciously - give them the goodwill benefit of the doubt.
- Money problems can dig deep and reveal our faults - how mature or immature we are. We need to deal with the problems together, putting aside frustrations and anger; instead communicate and work through the issue together. Show love and respect in how we handle money.
- The title of chapter 24 is "It's Hard to be Negative While Being Thankful." He goes on to describe a tough time in their lives dealing with a son's broken leg and dream and how his wife learned to be thankful even during that hard time. Developing a habit of thanksgiving drives the negative out - you see others in a more positive light.
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